The husband and wife are separated for a long time, and smart women are solved in four ways!

When your husband and wife have a separation situation for various reasons, as a woman, you have to think about how to save your marriage again, because when two people come to the end, two people can get married, it is not easy. You can’t rush to divorce because of a small thing, because you don’t know that you can find a better, smart woman when you get home. They will solve the problem of separation. Don’t always blame men, men. The main task is to work hard outside, and then take care of this home, the woman is to guard this home, then how does a smart woman do it?

First, work hard to make yourself more perfect and better.

It is unrealistic to say that men like silly women and stupid women. How can a man not want his wife to be a smart person? He can solve problems for himself and be able to share his own troubles instead of all day. I only know the complaints against myself. You have made yourself special, especially perfect. Is your husband still willing to leave you? How could it be separated from you? He wants to be with you every day, because you are not only his partner, you can also accompany him mentally.

Second, keep a sexy body.

Don’t think that if you get married for a long time, you won’t care about your body anymore. Men are visual animals. They all like the sexy body. If your body is particularly sexy, even if you have been married for a long time, but have time, but Because you keep it very well, at a certain age, you will exude a unique charm, more attractive to men, he can not do without you, why some men and their wives are separated, not because their wife does not know How to maintain yourself, to become a yellow face, a woman must be willing to be herself, do not always think about men, first do a good job, in order to firmly grasp the man.

Third, dress up younger.

Make yourself more young and more energetic. At this time, the man will regain the feeling of being in love with you. He is separated from you. It is very likely that someone is out there and the one who is derailed. A woman is also likely to be a younger woman. Since you are at a certain age, it is impossible to rejuvenate, but we can dress ourselves from the aspects of dressing up to make ourselves younger. This is not pretending, mature. A woman can also exude a young charm.

Fourth, it is more feminine.

Don’t forget, you are a woman, don’t make yourself so strong, sometimes separate the matter, the woman factor also takes up too much aspect, she is also busy with her work, busy her career, a new era A woman needs independence and needs to play a piece of her own world, but you have to be a woman. Don’t forget, man, he doesn’t like a woman who is particularly strong. If a woman is too strong, she will look special to her man. Weak, he can’t see the femininity in you, he is still with you, what do you mean? More to show a petite side in front of your husband, spoiled.

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There is always a place leave your common memories

There is always a place

Leave your common memories

Check out these romantic travel destinations

Go and see the beautiful mountains and clear waters together.

Shangri-La

There are sacred snow mountains, deep canyons, flying waterfalls, tranquil lakes surrounded by forests, flocks of cattle and sheep squatting on beautiful grasslands, nets like mirrored sky, magnificent temples…

Xitang

The profound historical and cultural heritage, the beautiful and beautiful water towns and towns, and the fascinating tastes between the hands and feet, how can you not be fascinated? The sun shines on the water, and quietly tastes the ancient scent of the fireworks with the lover.

Guilin Yangshuo

The peaks of the mountains are floating in the mountains, and there is no water in the mountains. Yangshuo is a small town that makes you fall in love with you. You can wake up in the warm sunshine, hold a book, and enjoy the sun on the riverside. You can relax. Take a walk on the bluestone road of the ancient street, find a coffee shop and listen to the song quietly.

Chongqing

The city has taken too many love movies, and it has a texture like a movie. The size of the street scene exudes a romantic atmosphere. Chongqing in the fog is just like fairyland. This kind of Chongqing is so daunting in memory that people can’t stop falling in love with this place.

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《内经》云:“脉以候阴阳”

脉之造字

首先我们还是从造字来看。脉由月+永构成,我们现在的简体就用这个脉。还有另一个是月+“派”的右半边即“脈”,这是比较正规的写法。月字在这里是形符,《说文》和《康熙》都把它放在肉部。所以,月可作两个部首,一个是月亮的月,一个是肉。《说文》、《康熙》将脉(脈)置于肉部,我的意见是对一半错一半。说对一半是因为从形上讲,脉确实是由肉构成的。但是,如果从功用上,从更广义上讲,脉置肉部就有诸多不妥。它应该置于月部。

月就是月亮,《说文》释月为“太阴之精”,《史记·天官书》曰:“月者,阴精之宗”。而《淮南子·天文训》则云:“水气之精者为月。”也就是说,月为水气之精凝结而成。

永的本意是长,把这个长放在历史里就是永恒。如果把它放在自然里,这个长与什么才堪称配呢?当然只有江河才能相配。所以,《说文》云:“永长也,象水巠理之长。”我们经常讲源远流长,在本义上就是指江河。你看长江从唐古拉山起源后,一直流到大海,横穿整个内陆东西。还有什么比这个更长?所以,永的本义就是这样,它代表江河,代表江河的主流。而“脈”之右半的意思呢?它也与水有关,表示江河的支流。一个主流,一个支流,两个都是讲水。所以,这个脉字必定是与水相关的。

脉义

形声二符的意义已如前说,形符我们还是从月讲。月属阴,阴的东西是黑暗的,不应该有亮光。但为什么月会有亮光呢?古人讲这是日使之明也。也就是说属阴的月本无明,而有了日,有了太阳它就会明。所以,月的光明主要与太阳相关。我们常说水中月、镜中花,其实水中本无月,镜中亦无花。月的明亮也就是这样一个关系,它好比一面镜子,一面太阳的镜子,一面阳气的镜子。因此,月相的变化情况,从天文的角度讲,它反映的是日、地、月三者之间的相互关系;从中医的角度讲,它反映的是阳气的进退消长。所以,整个月的阴晴圆缺它并不在于说明其他的什么,而说明的就是这个阳气的变化。

今天是农历十一,再过四天就是十五,从这个时候起,月亮在一天天变圆,直至形成十五的满月。月属阴,月满了是不是就意味着阴气满呢?不是的。恰恰相反,它反映的是阳气满,阳气充满,阳气盛大。这就引出一个月周期的问题。前面我们曾讲过年周期和日周期的问题,有的人发病跟这个年周期很有关系。比如胃病的病人,有的就喜欢在春天发作,其他季节他比较平静,可是每到春天胃就不舒服。

这样一个发病特征就提示我们这个病与东方很有关系,与肝木很有关系,应该从这方面来考虑治疗。还有的病人在年周期上没有特征,可是在日周期内却很有特征,他这个病就是傍晚的时候不舒服,其他时间相安无事。这是什么原因呢?从前面谈的日周期我们知道,傍晚的时分对应秋,这就与西方、与肺金有关。这里我们提出月周期,也就是说在每一个月周期里面也存在一个春夏秋冬的变化,也存在一个生长收藏的变化,根据病人在月周期内的发病特征,我们可以做出一个相关性的判断,从而有利于疾病的诊断与治疗。

汉代的魏伯阳造有一本《周易参同契》。这本书在历代都受到极高的重视,享有“万古丹经王”之美称。这本书对月相的变化是用易卦来描述的,比如这个十五,它所对应的是乾卦:“十五乾体就,盛满甲东方。”乾卦三爻皆阳,是纯阳卦,月满用乾来表示,正说明了月满是阳气最隆盛的时候,这个时候阳气处在最大的释放状态。月满一过,重阳必阴,阳气逐渐地转入收,转入藏。月相也渐渐由满变缺。到了二十二、二十三即成为下弦月,这个时候的阳气状态与秋相应。下弦以后,月的亮区进一步“萎缩”,直至三十,什么都没有了,只见一个月亮的影子,这个时候就叫晦。在晦这个时候,月亮跑到哪去了呢?月亮还是在那儿。就像我们的镜子,刚才镜中还有花,为什么这会儿没有了?因为你把花拿掉了,藏起来了,而镜子仍然在那儿。

这个时候阳气没有显现,阳气都收藏起来了。所以,月就不明了,这就成为晦。所以,晦这个时候就与冬藏相应。因此,整个月象的变化,实际上就是说明阳气变化的这么一个问题。月象所呈现的不是其他,就是一个阳气,故月又称为阳镜。月为阳镜的这个说法,不知道古代有没有,如果没有,则权作我们的一个创造。所以,月象变化的这个过程,实际上就是以阴显阳,以阴现阳的过程。

月的这样一个意义谈完了,现在再回过头来看水。水也是属阴,是一个静物。它只有往下走,所以,我们常说:人往高处走,水往低处流。但是,有些时候也会有例外,水也会有起落,比如潮水的涨落就是一个典型的例子。这就促使我们去思考这个导致涨落的因素。今年中央电视台刚好转播了钱塘江观潮的盛况,大家也看到了,这个过程确实蔚为壮观。特别是两股潮碰撞回旋的时候,正好形成一个天然的太极阴阳图,这使我们想到了什么叫做“道法自然”。古人所搞出来的这些东西,都不是胡思乱想出来的,都是有根据的,这个根据就是自然。

水这样一个静物为什么会涨起来?而且涨得这么汹涌澎湃。这跟月亮一样,月本无光而阳使之光。水本为静而阳使之动。所以,这完全是一个阳气的问题。既然是阳气的问题,那么,这个涨落必然会与时间相关,与阳气的变化相关。古人讲月满观潮,就是说潮涨一般都在月圆的时候。月圆潮起,月亏潮落,这是什么原因呢?从现代科学的角度,从海洋潮汐学的角度,认为在月圆的时候,月地的引力最大,由于引力的作用产生了潮涨的变化,也就是说潮的起落与月地的引力相关。这个是现代科学的说法。

但是,在古代还没有引力这个概念,是什么因素导致这个潮汐的涨落变化呢?既然有变化,那必定要找阴阳,这是《素问·阴阳应象大论》明确规定的。是什么因素能使这个阴静而下的东西升涨起来呢?除了阳再没有别的东西。阳主动主升,惟有靠阳的鼓动作用才能使水升涨为潮。而恰恰月满的时候是阳气最隆盛的时候,这就与现代科学的说法吻合了。阳气的作用,就使这个静者变动,就使这个下者变高。因此,潮汐的涨落变化实际上反映了阳气的变化,是阳加于阴方为潮,这与月为阳镜的道理同出一辙。

在自然界,海洋的潮汐受月地引力的作用,受阳气的影响。那么,在人体呢?根据天人相应的原理,人体的情况应该跟这个过程相似,而这个相似的东西就是血脉。几年前《中国青年》杂志的一篇文章正好支持了以上这个说法。这篇文章有两个观点:一个是最原始的生命起源于海洋,这个问题我们在厥阴篇会有详细的论证。生命的起源跟河图很有关系,跟五行很有关系;另外一点就是认为人体的血液跟海水具有很大的相似性。

为什么呢?人血是咸的,海水也是咸的。所以,自然有江河湖海,人身就有血脉。血者水也。血本静物,它为什么会在血管中流动,进而产生脉搏呢?当然,我们从现代的角度很清楚,这是由于心脏的不停收缩造成的,但是,光从这个角度来理解还不能解决问题。心脏收缩产生脉搏,这一点古人已经认识到,并且将这个问题归结到胃气里面。但是,要使这个脉理与整个医理相应,那么,脉的变化还是要归到阴阳上来。树欲静而风不止,阴血欲静而阳动之。如果我们用一句话把整个脉理浓缩进去,给脉下一个定义,那么这个定义就是:阳加于阴谓之脉。

知道了脉的这个道理,这就好办了,你就会明白我们号脉是为了什么?那就是为了了解阴阳。《内经》云:“脉以候阴阳”。脉为什么可以候阴阳呢?就因为脉的形成,脉的变化具备了阴阳的要素。所以,我们号脉的最根本、最重要的意义就是了解阴阳。《素问·阴阳应象大论》云:“阴阳者,天地之道也,万物之纲纪,变化之父母,生杀之本始,神明之府也,治病必求于本。”在前面第二章里我们曾讨论过这个本的问题,本就是阴阳。

因为一切事物的发生、发展、变化都与这个阴阳有关,都是阴阳的变化导致的,疾病当然也不例外。现在我们要了解这个疾病,要考察这个疾病,看是什么因素导致的这个疾病,那我们从什么地方入手呢?当然要从根本上入手。从根本上入手就离不开阴阳。而阴阳从哪里去了解呢?脉!既然脉能够这样好地反映阴阳,所以,中医一个很重要的诊断方法就是从脉入手。当然,如果有人能像扁鹊那样望而知之,那这个脉可以不那么重要。你一望便知道他的阴阳。但是,这一点我们恐怕很难做到,那我们就只能依靠脉来鉴别阴阳。

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